This is very different to my usual relaxed and casual posts, but I’ve been thinking about this theory for a while now and I need a ramble about it. I do A level Psychology and the current project is on the Matching Hypothesis. Hopefully some of you are aware of what this theory explains/proposes but most people I’ve asked about have no idea about it. The Matching Hypothesis proposes that people are more likely to have long standing relationships with someone who is as equally attractive as they are. It was just one of those theories wherecertain things just start to make sense and you just think yes that’s why. It also suggests that if the two people differ greatly in physical attractiveness, then the less attractive person has some compensating quality, such as wealth or status.
I am not 100% sure I agree with this theory, because there are so many circumstances in which relationships are formed, therefore it simply cannot be accountable for all relationships. I also think it represents us humans as being very shallow beings, which I also do not agree with – I mean, yes some people are very shallow, but a lot are also not.
However, I do think it’s an awesome explanation and I’m sure you can think of a few couples who fit this description.
I know that was a short blog post but I wanted to write it quickly whilst I still had the thought in my head. I’d love to hear your views on this theory – do you agree with it?
P.S the featured image is not mine, I found it on google.
I haven’t written a blog post in almost a month so I thought I would do a quick life update to explain why I’ve been offline for a while.
I’ve been super busy with exams and work so not had as much time to sit down and write. My exams are only a few weeks away so I’m focusing on those for now. I’m also running for vice president of the students union at my college so that’s taken up a bit of time too.
However, I have an exciting trip planned at the end of May so you will hear all about that! I am also going to write some blog posts today to go up in the next few weeks and I will try to reply to comments when I can! Hope you’re all doing well 🙂
It’s finally spring, which means light evenings and warmer (ish) days! The clocks went forwards a few weeks ago which means British Summer Time is here! Yes! This is one of my favourite times of the year because I love how light it is in the evenings; it’s 7:40 pm here in England and still light! The other day my brother and I were playing frisbee in the park and thought we would do a little photoshoot while it was still light and warm enough! So, to kick off a series of very spring-themed posts, I thought I would put some of the photo’s on here. Enjoy! (I couldn’t put many photo’s up because I don’t want to show my brothers face on here so sorry about that!) Megssaskia x
This has been a blog post idea that has been rattling round in the back of my mind for quite some time now, so I’m very pleased to finally be sharing it! I thought I would make a list of a few things which have really helped to improve my everyday health – both mental and physical. If you’re interested, please read on!
Exercise each day
Most days for the past…however many months/years, I have been doing at least half an hour of exercise each day. The reason for this was because I stopped playing sports regularly and I needed a way to stay fit. However, even though that was my main reason at first, now I exercise because it makes me feel awake and gives me more energy. Even if you just go for a walk, getting fresh air is one of the best things for you in life! Whether it is in the morning before you start the day or in the evenings when you are winding down, it is so important to keep yourself active. Doing exercise also releases endorphins in your brain. These are basically happy chemicals which induce feelings of pleasure or euphoria.
Out of all five, this is definitely the favourite on my list. I cannot recommend this enough – especially to people who have a full time job or go to school/college. Or if you just have a generally busy and active life! There are a few things you can do to maintain a healthy sleep routine. The most obvious is probably going to bed at a reasonable time. This should also be paired with getting up at more or less the same time each day. Maintaining a consistent routine can help you feel more energised and awake. Other tips include no technology from an hour before bed time and no coffee after 4/5 o’clock!
When I refer to meditating I am not thinking of sitting with your legs crossed singing ‘om’ over and over. Rather, I am referring to simply having some quiet time at the end of the day. Whether this is done by reading a book, listening to music or simply breathing deeply, it’s always nice to have some time to yourself at the end of the day. If I didn’t do this each day I would probably explode – life can be so crazy and fast sometimes!
Finally, this is something I have been working on for a few months. I feel like life can pass us by very quickly without us really noticing or thinking about it. We’re a generation who is constantly thinking about the next thing; the next trip, the next career move, the next goal. It’s good to take a step back every once in a while and enjoy the journey. This includes thinking about the thinks we’re grateful and thankful for!
I’m so happy to tell you that I’ve been nominated for the Liebster Blogger Award – an award for new blogs which have less than 200 followers. Thank you so much to Hannah who nominated me. Go check out her blog – https://wordsmithobservations.wordpress.com/ – you won’t regret it. 🙂 This is the first blogger award I’ve ever recieved, so it’s pretty awesome to be honest. Plus, I get to discover and nominate 11 other bloggers. Here are the rules:
These are the questions that I was given (and my answers):
What made you pursue writing? I have always been keen on writing down thoughts/feeling in a diary. Blogging allows me to do this whilst exploring other people’s thoughts and sharing my own.
What is the most important event/events that have grown you into the person you are today? Flying to Australia on my own was an amazing experience. I learnt how to be independent and cope when things don’t go the way they’re planned.
Describe yourself in one sentence. Always looking for new adventures/exciting things to do.
If you could meet with anyone past or present who would it be and why? Probably Florence Nightingale. She’s such a role model for standing out from the crowd and not following what everyone else is doing. She also had a big impact on the way we approach medicine today.
What are 5 principles that you try to live your life by? Do the right thing, even if it means standing on your own. Have no regrets. Be yourself – don’t be afraid to stand out from the crowd and be nice to everyone you meet.
If you could pack up and live anywhere in the world for a year, where would you live and why? Definitely Australia. The accents, the food, the beaches, the cities and of course the amazingly hot weather – what is there not to like?!
Who are your favourite authors?Why do you like their work so much? J.K Rowling definitely! I love the Harry Potter books. They’re my comfort books; whenever I’m nervous/feeling down they cheer me up.
If you could be anything in the world, what would you be? I would absolutely love to be a singer, it’s always been my dream job.
What do you love to do in your free time? I usually hang out with friends or if I have time to myself I like to sing, read a book, or catch up on a new episode of a TV series on Netflix!
What would you say is your biggest downfall? I often find it difficult to make good friends in new situations and I wish I could be more outgoing.
What would you say is your best attribute? I am very ambitious; I know what my goals are and I work hard to achieve them.
11 random facts about me:
I was homeschooled for 3 years.
I want to travel the world and explore different cultures before I settle down.
I hope to be a Psychologist or a Lawyer.
My favourite quote is “Life is short, break the rules, forgive quickly, kiss slowly, love truly, laugh uncontrollably, and never regret anything that made you smile.”
I love fashion/clothes
My zodiac sign is a Scorpio (I was born on Halloween)
I love interior design – walking through shops such as John Lewis and Ikea, or anywhere that has a homeware section is so much fun – I can’t wait to decorate my own home.
My favourite colours are red and blue.
I play cricket for the county team.
I study Psychology, English Language and Law.
These are the blogs I have nominated for this award, go check them out!
studiousbrad.wordpress.com – The layout on this blog is so good and makes it easy to read the posts. I particularly liked the post entitled “7 Tips For Waking Up Early Every Morning” – some of the tips are brilliant and really do help a lot!
queenkerswell.wordpress.com – This was one of the first blog I came across when I first started. Some of her posts are so relatable and real. She was very friendly when I commented on one of her posts. The part I love the most about her blog is the posts on Lush, as this is one of my favourite shops.
kuminkueche.wordpress.com – As soon as I set my eyes on the delicious recipes on this blog, I loved everything I saw. My favourite is the recipe for Green Beans. This blog boasts some of the most delicious looking, yet fairly simple recipes!
crystaleyes20.com – If you want to feel inspired and uplifted, I seriously recommend scrolling through Crystal’s blog. I find her posts so motivating and they make me stop and think for a while in this crazy whirlwind of life! I have also got to read about how much she loves teaching – this is especially close to my heart as my grandma was also a teacher and I love listening to others share similar stories.
femvestige.wordpress.com – I came across this blog the other day and was really touched by some of the things which have been written. I too class myself as a feminist so it was very inspiring to read Sarah’s posts.Her writing style is incredible and the poems she has written are so powerful. I especially like the one entitled ‘Unclean’
etchedinadventure.com – I’m so in love with travel blogs, however much they make me sick with wanderlust! However, this blog is very original and that really appealed to me. The pictures are incredible and I could spend ages scrolling through them. The tips for travelling are also so useful. If you’re a travel lover, then definitely check out this blog!
cloeverjoyful.wordpress.com – thanks to all these amazing blogs (this being one of them!), I’m getting very into reading poems. As a relatively new blog, it is very exciting to read and the writing is great – this is a very creative blog. I also love the travel post! 🙂
element37.wordpress.com – I chose this blog because it really gives an insight into Rachel’s life. It has made me chuckle (especially the wedding post!) and think about abstract things. Also, her puppy is so adorable and her dog posts are very relatable!
wordsfromabrokeartist.wordpress.com – I was excited about finding this blog as the tagline has psychology in it! I love anything psychology/mind/people related and her posts really seem to put into words things which I often think about but don’t know how to say. My favourite post is probably ‘That time I lost my friends and grew up as a result’ because it gives you perspective.
lightsoulssite.wordpress.com – I enjoy how original this blog is. After reading the About page I was intrigued. Often the best blog posts are random thoughts or idea’s and I think this blog does that perfectly. The posts are short, which I like as it makes it easier to read all of them!
ouridentityblog.wordpress.com – reading the posts from this blog makes me feel very happy. The posts are cheery and I really enjoy the friendly vibe that is projected through the writing. The first post made me chuckle as I found that whole forgetting passwords thing very relatable!
Final step is to ask you guys 11 questions, so here goes:
If you could go anywhere in the world right now, where would it be and why?
What are your goals in life?
What are you most passionate about?
How would you define happiness?
If you received enough money to never have to work again, what would you do on a day to day basis?
What are you studying/have studied in the past?
What is your guilty pleasure?
If you could change one thing about the world, what would it be?
What is your favourite quote? Why?
If you could read a book about your future, would you read it? Why?
What is the greatest adventure of your life so far?
Hope you enjoy checking out these blogs and (to the nominees) I hope you enjoy answering the questions!
I thought to end a chapter (and year) I would look back at the best moments of 2016.
In all honesty, January didn’t start out great with both my mum and I being ill. However, it was the start to a brilliant year. New Years Eve was spent at a friends house, which was a lot of fun!
On the 31st January we celebrated Burns Night – a Scottish tradition celebrating a poet. We’re not Scottish but my mum went to a university in Scotland so we always celebrate it. As always, my best friend (Char) came and we laughed our way through dinner with my family, which is a common occurrence on this night!
February (as always) was very cold. In the half term a group of friends and I went to stay in a house near Hereford for the weekend. Although wet and muddy, we had a lot of fun and laughs. We went on walks, made a mud slide (never again!) and drank hot chocolate whilst playing board games. We also went into the city and did a bit of shopping (and eating)!
March arrived and with it brought a lot of rain and cold weather. My brother celebrated his birthday in early March, which was fun! Apart from that, not a lot happened in March other than revision for exams!
One great thing about March this year (well, last year now!) was that I wasn’t ill for 3 weeks! Considering it was winter, that was pretty good.
In April I went to Devon for the weekend with my dad. This was great and I got loads of revision done, as well as being able to stroll along the beach and enjoy the delicious pastries from the bakery. The weekend was really relaxed and well needed to de-stress just before exams started! To hear more about my Devon trip and see more pics check out my Weekend Away – Devon blog post. https://megssaskia.wordpress.com/2016/04/27/weekend-away-devon/
May went past very quickly in a blur of revision and exams. My GCSE exams started half way through May so I wasn’t able to do much other than revise. However, it started to get warmer so I still managed to find time to get out and enjoy the good weather with friends. May was also the start of BBQ season, which made up for all the revision! Check out this post for more: https://megssaskia.wordpress.com/2016/05/09/summer-evening-with-friends/
June was a very exciting month. It was the month of my dad’s birthday and the end of my GCSE’s!! We celebrated my dads birthday half way through the month and a few days later I was done with exams. This was the best feeling in the world! I then had around 2 and a half months of holidays to do whatever I liked, without having to worry about exams.
I also got my first job as a waitress in a local cafe! This was awesome because I needed something to do and also money!
In July I went to Spain with my family for two weeks. We spent most of the time by the pool and went out in the evenings to restaurants and simply to stroll through the late night stalls in nearby towns. It was a very relaxed/refreshing holiday. To see more photo’s from this trip, here is the separate blog post: https://megssaskia.wordpress.com/2016/08/29/spain-2016/
Throughout the summer I also played quite a lot of cricket as I got into the county development squad! One of the best matches I played was when I got 4 wickets in one game – 3 of which were taken in one over! Definitely something I’m going to remember!
August started off with a choir tour to Hereford. We got to sing in the cathedral each day for a week. In the evenings we went out for meals or just hung out together. The week went very quickly and I’m so excited for the next one!
GCSE results were on the 25th August. This was so nerve wracking and I remember it seemed to take forever for them to find the envelope with my name on it. I passed everything and I was so pleased! I managed to get a few A’s, B’s and only 1 C! Actually, I think I was more pleased with my C in maths than my full marks in English as I had been so convinced that I hadn’t passed, but I did! August ended with a good feeling and happiness.
Canoeing in Wales whilst on the choir trip
The shock of my results on results day!
In September I started at a new college for sixth form. I also chose my A levels; English Language, Law and Psychology. The start of college was more exciting than daunting as a few of my friends were also starting so we all got the bus together. It was easy to make friends in some classes and I also knew a few people from previous schools.
I attended a KLS (Kleine-Levin Syndrome) meeting in London. This was very eye-opening and helpful as I was able to meet other people who understood what it felt like to be ‘in episode.’
I also started visiting universities, starting with Bath. This was really cool and made me feel very grown up. I’m so excited to go to Uni!
Afternoon drinks in the sun
At a rugby match
October was also a fun and exciting month. We went back to the house in Hereford for the weekend – I seem to have spent a large amount of time in Hereford this year haha! This time more people went so it was a lot more fun! We did the same as before, except no mud slide this time!
At the end of the month we went to Paris for a few days for my 16th Birthday. This was an amazing experience as I’ve never stayed in Paris before. We saw most of the main attractions, including the Eiffel Tower, Arc de Triomphe and the Louvre. We stayed a few streets away from the red light district and drove through it a few times at night – this was an experience in itself. When we came back it was my 16th birthday and we celebrated by having an excellent meal (creds to my grandma!) and I went out with some friends a few days later.
In early November both my mum and my grandma celebrated their birthdays also. 3 generations of my mums side of the family have birthdays within a week of each other, which means the excitement lasts longer than a day! 🙂
On the 5th November, it was fireworks night, which meant going into town with friends and watching the firework display. This year fireworks night was one of my favourite nights of the year! I was with Char and another friend and we just had the best night. It was good to see girl-friends as I spend most of my time around my guy friends!
Of course, the highlight for many people in December is Christmas! Our Christmas was fairly relaxed and quiet with just my parents, brother and grandma, but it was good none-the-less. Most of the day was spent lounging around, opening presents and (of course) eating!
December ended on a high as I saw friends most nights leading up to New Years Eve. The highlight was definitely seeing friends I haven’t seen in ages! We had a ‘raclette party’ which consisted of having raclette (obviously!) and playing games. Oh don’t forget Just Dance! Here’s to a great 2017!
Happy New Year! Once again, it’s that time of year where resolutions and fresh starts are made. When I was younger I never really made New Years resolutions, let alone write them down or stick to them. However, this year I decided I would give it a go, even if I don’t stick to them 100%, it’s a good source of motivation. I have both personal resolutions and work-based resolutions for studying and college.
One of my personal resolutions is to maintain a healthy lifestyle – this refers to a healthy sleep routine, regular exercise and eating healthily. Another is to be more grateful towards my family and for the opportunities which I am given. My 17th birthday is later this year and I will be able to drive. Therefore, a final thing I would like to achieve is learning to drive (or at least starting to learn)!
Resolutions for studying/college include getting a good grade in my AS Law exam and working harder in English Language. As well as this I would like to achieve good predicted grades and submit awesome uni applications!
I’d love to know what some of your New Years resolutions are – feel free to comment and let me know! 🙂
P.S – this was a short, quick post to kick off the year, so keep your eyes peeled for a longer 2016 year review!